create an   identity

healthy self-discipline

Angelina Jolie

boundaries

But unless Mediators establish boundaries, they can be at risk of absorbing other people’s negative moods or attitudes.

Taken too far, this self-criticism can discourage Mediators, leading them to give up on even their dearest dreams.

according to your own carefully chosen standards of excellence.

Everyone is different. They have different skills and abilities, different interests, and different motivations. This is why it makes no sense to use others as a measuring stick for yourself, either to denigrate your own accomplishments or exaggerate their importance.

feeling overly concerned with pleasing others and earning their approval as a way to maintain relationships.

You struggle with feelings of low-self esteem.

You feel guilty when you do tell people "no."

deeply afraid of failure and rejection, feel a lot of guilt